Hi Big Buzzing World,
I spent yesterday with a childhood friend. All day, talking, reminicising, dreaming, laughing, and even a little crying.
I’ve woken up this morning and I’m struck by how our lives, ordinary enough, have managed to meander along to where we both are now. On the face of it very similar, to the outside world, we both have a gaggle of kids we love more than life itself, good husbands, nice homes, oridinary middle class people. Modern women, we’ve made our choices, happy when making them that they were right for us.
But here’s the thing. We’ve both changed. It seems sometimes, completely from the people we once were. And then you spend a day together and you realise, it’s not us — it’s them!
Yes, I know it’s an old cliche, I know it sounds like a fob out. But here’s the thing, we are the people we wanted to be — I think. What has changed are all the things around us. The things we wanted to make us happy, to make us who we are, can sometimes suck you in, so you lose yourself, often for very long periods.
Unless, you’re lucky enough to have people around who remember, who you really are. Before the mayhem. Back when life was about going out at the weekends, listening to cool music and blowing your weeks wages! Maybe even back before that, to school, the nuns and the first holy! Sometimes, one short glimpse of that, through the prism of shared laughter or tears is enough to locate who you are, where you are and how bloody lucky we’ve both been.
Happy Days, LK.
To secrets shared, too many belly laughs and the one’s that got away. Here’s to the next forty!